I’m sure you’ve heard it as many times as I have… you know, the old saying that “Opposites Attract”. This statement always amazed me. It’s interesting that people often say this in regard to a relationship that seems completely unbelievable on the surface because the two people involved seem to be polar opposites. But I have a different take on this. I’ve learned that even though you may not see obvious similarities between a couple on the outside (ie. difference in the way they dress or their hair or whatever), on the inside, truly strong relationships are built upon the qualities and characteristics that they both share.
I’ve heard this same example used over and over again… magnets. They say that the north attracts the south and there’s your proof that opposites attract.
But I can use this same analogy to prove the exact opposite is true. Consider the fact that magnets are made up of positive (south) and negative (north) polarities… and yes the negative charge is always attracted to the positive charge and vice versa. If you try to place south against south, it will repel.
Now although this is true, in actuality these magnets are exactly the same, not different. They’re both shaped exactly the same… the same size… the same color and they each have both positive and negative charges. It’s not that the magnet repels itself because it’s alike… what happens is that the positive charge completes the negative charge so that they now combine to form a larger, more powerful magnet. (which is exactly what a relationship should resemble)
If opposites truly did attract then one magnet would be completely positive and the other completely negative, but that’s not the case… and neither is it true for relationship. Next time someone tells you that opposites attract, give them this as proof that its not true:
If I wanted to shake your hand, you’d have to face me. I wouldn’t be able to shake your hand with your back to me, you’d have to turn around. But just because you’re facing me doesn’t mean that you’re different. We’re still the same… as a matter of fact, I can only shake your right hand with MY right hand!
There’s nothing more wonderful than two people finding each other who have several things in common. Its like building a table with extra legs. The more legs, the less likely it is to fall over.
Yeah, yeah… call me crazy. But I still think I’m right. lol
Help Wanted
You know, it continues to amazing me how much your childhood affects you as an adult. The person you become is a sum of all the experiences you’ve had and people you encountered.
I grew up in a large extended family. At one time there were 14 people living in our house. .. aunts, cousins, friends of friends, you name it. I’ve seen my parents extend a helping hand to just about any and everybody. So I’ve grown up with the same mindset when it comes to family and helping others. I’d do just about anything for my siblings (legal and non-life threatening, that is).
But in contrast, I know someone who grew up alone, raised by their mother. It shocked me how they had no real sense of family or any desire to help others unless it benefitted them in some way. It’s so bad that they don’t even expect help from other people. They even feel that if someone were to lend them a helping hand that somehow they’re imposing and burdening them unreasonably.
That type of mentality is so foreign to me. If my sibling needs help and I’m able, I help them. Even if it seems unfair to some people, it doesn’t matter… they’re family. Bottom line. And if someone offers to help me, and I KNOW that I need the help, I wouldn’t let my pride cause me to turn it down.
Isn’t that one of the reasons we’re here… to help one another?
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