In the past, I’ve observed some people who’ve desperately wanted certain things in life and have worked feverishly to acquire it… whether it be fame, fortune or even love… only to find out that once they attained it, there was nothing left to work hard toward. It would almost have been better had they never gotten it… no longer are they driven to excel or determined to succeed. They just… exist.
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Who decided that nearly everything should be abbreviated?
What does it say about us as a society that we seem to openly despise multisyllabic words; going so far as working to actively avoid them in print and conversation?
Maturity is looking back on things we did in the past and realizing how childish and foolish they were.🤪 While at the same time, accepting that we are still doing foolish things…😜 just more adultingly. 🧐
We’ve all made mistakes right? You know, things we wish we could take back or at least change in some way? I’ve had my share of both big and small regrets. Situations that I would’ve handled differently… People I wish I could make things right with… In the end, I guess to some degree I’ve expected the one I offended to forgive me, or at the very least, accept my sincere apology. However, there are occasions when, despite my best efforts to reconcile a situation, despite my attempts to restore what may have been lost, all of my gestures are rejected.
It’s during these times that I realize my life can not be tangled up in the emotional instability of others. If I have wronged you, whether or not it was intentional, by accident or indirectly, there is no rule book that says you have to forgive me. We are not obligated to continue as friends. My faux pas may ultimately cause us to sever all ties. But if you insist on holding onto your anger like gripping a coat in high winds, so be it. But I can’t be a party to it.
See, I feel like holding grudges is akin to refusing to treat a severe wound so that it never heals. Leaving it exposed only causes it to hurt more, become infected and pretty soon, what could have been handled with minimal discomfort has now become something excruciating that affects every thing in your life. From your emotional health to your inter-personal relationships. Even down to how you interact with the world around you.
My suggestion… let it go.
I’m certainly not saying it’s an easy thing to do. But if you’re holding a grudge against someone who’s apologized (genuinely) for it, set yourself free from that unnecessary weight! It doesn’t mean you’re all of sudden going to be BFFs. Just know that there is more to life than wasting time storing up your disappointment like weapons. When that happens, everyone ends up injured.
I think the inability to give and receive positive feedback further undermines society’s ability to form interpersonal relationships of any meaning. We all then become ultra-superficial as a means of self-protection and erring on the side of caution. We’ve birthed an entire social group that embraces paranoia to the likes of:
“I don’t want anyone online to see my face!”
“I don’t want anyone online to know my first name!”
“I don’t want anyone online to know what school I went to or what city I grew up in!”
“I don’t want anyone online to know where I work!”
It’s as if they fail to consider the hundreds of strangers offline and IN FAR CLOSER PROXIMITY that see their faces, know their names, watch them go to work, or see them at school EVERY SINGLE DAY. What makes them any less suspect than the guy online that lives across the country in Hoboken, New Jersey? I’m not afraid of society. But maybe that’s the very reason that society is afraid of me. Because by knowing me, they won’t stay hidden.