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FATCAP (A Fatherhood Capsule Story): Discombobulated Dad

When it comes to social media, I often have moments where I feel like I can’t focus on one thing. I mean, for the most part I think I’m known for my music and for my writing. 😎 And lately I’m probably becoming known for my attempts (#AnotherDay1) to get and remain in shape. 🏋🏽‍♂️
But most days I’m just out here like, “Oh lordy… is this suppose to be a fitness profile? I’ve posted MAYBE two photos from the gym in the last three weeks.” 😬 Because let’s be honest, there ain’t a ton of angle variety to be had in men’s locker room that’s fit for public consumption. And it’s a special kind of contortionist with 3 arms who can take a selfie while doing hammer curls. 💪🏾
So then I fall back on the old saying, “Do what you know.” And what I know, after more than 24 years of it, is fatherhood. Which makes me just barely qualified to explain how best to help keep small children alive, despite their best efforts to the contrary. 😇
Of course, the other part of me is like, “But isn’t fitness also a part of parenting? I mean, shouldn’t it be?” 🤔 I certainly don’t want to be the unhealthy dad that is suffering from wholly preventable conditions because I couldn’t be bothered to pick up a weight or take the elliptical for a spin.
So I’ve decided that I won’t try to figure out my “niche” other than to say that, for now, my niche is ME… and all of my topical inconsistencies that come with me.🤪
However, I am super thankful that there ARE people out there who really know what they want to do, how to do it, and have put together solid plans to make them happen.
People like my son, Micah.
If you’ve never seen him, bro legit looks like an olympian. 🏅He’d be scary if he wasn’t so darn relatable, charming, and always smiling. He’s a good looking guy too, and that’s not just dad smoke. lol Real talk… he could probably do 50 squats with me on his shoulders and not break a sweat. In any case, he’s planning to compete in the upcoming 2020 AZ Open Mens Bodybuilding competition in the spring, and I couldn’t be more proud.🏆
I look at him and imagine that I probably would’ve looked exactly like that at his age. Sorta, maybe… almost..? 🤨
Anyway, you should follow his journey and can check out his new YouTube channel here: You can also follow him on Instagram @micahwelchfit.
So, don’t be discombobulated like me.
Be focused, like him. 😉
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It’s no secret that I am one very, VERY proud father. The pride I have in my children is second only to the fullness of my heart in how much I love them. I recently talked about my oldest son who auditioned for X-Factor and will be heading off to college in the fall, but now I want to share a little bit about my second oldest son, Christopher. Being only a sophomore in high school, his athleticism is rapidly approaching legendary status. This year he not only was bumped up to Varsity Football in the fall, but after football season ended and he transitioned to the track team (which he also did last year as a freshman), he was also bumped up to Varsity Track.

This weekend, we were able to get a few photos of him in various heats. To say he’s well conditioned is an understatement. Christopher is a well-oiled machine. There is now even talk about him competing in the Olympics. Yeah… things just got real. lol So, here are the shots. A bit blurry because of the camera phone. But good enough to make the point.

He prays before every race.


In the starting blocks.


Dusting the competition!

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Adventures In Academia

I just wanted to share some exciting news!

My oldest son, whom I affectionately call Myxl Jr., is in his senior year of high school. He’s done extremely well academically, maintaining an unweighted GPA of 3.9 and a weighted GPA of 4.3 (with AP classes). Since Middle School he’s been involved in multiple extracurricular activities, some that have taken him all the way to Greece! He’s an amazing singer who currently has a single on iTunes. He’s an accomplished actor who’s been in multiple stage productions at his High School. He’s even volunteered at several charity events. Needless to say, he’s got a lot going for him and I’m EXTREMELY proud (if you couldn’t tell already)!

Anyway, over the holiday season, from about the end of October to mid-December 2012, he applied to nearly a dozen colleges, including Harvard, Stanford, St. Mary’s, USC, and a handful of UC schools. So far, we’ve heard from three…

He received an acceptance letter from St. Mary’s that included a full academic scholarship for the entire four years that amounts to nearly $100,000!

He also received an acceptance letter from USC with the terms of their scholarship offering coming in the next few weeks!

And finally… today, at approximately 3pm PST, his Harvard Admissions interview will take place! I cannot put into words how excited I am for him! He’s worked really hard in school over the years and now he’s really seeing the fruit of his labor. It is a wonderful thing to witness. And as his father, it’s what I’ve always wanted for him.

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Recipe For Disaster

The other day while I was busy loading the dishwasher, my 16 month old son ambled into the kitchen to, among other things, shake the living daylights out of the bottom rack of the dishwasher. I gave him this puzzled expression which he answered with an ear to ear grin. After proceeding to tell him to stop and removing his hands, which I am convinced have magnets or some other sticky property to them, he turned around and grabbed hold of the spigot to the nearby water cooler. To my disbelief, with one hand he leaned in and began pulling on it until it threatened to fall over on top of him, all the while smiling up at me with this “Watch this, Dad!” look on his face.

Now, I didn’t scold him or yell at him because I know that this is just par for the course with toddlers. What vexed my mind was the fact that destruction is the default setting for children. At every opportunity Avery is plotting (as much as a toddler can plot) his next target. He yanks down tablecloths. Throws toys in the toilet. Smacks the picture window in the living room. Mashes the keyboard on my laptop. Bangs on the piano with balled up fists. Pulls every single baby wipe out of the container. And, if allowed, will unravel the toilet paper roll until it sits in a gloriously unruly pile on the floor.

Why can’t a child’s default be the restoration of chaos? Wouldn’t it be awesome if at every turn kids were turning off lights, picking up toys or unloading the dishwasher? But no… these things have to be taught. The process of which requires repetition, demonstration and ongoing discussion. Even so, some kids STILL don’t seem to get it. There are certain things I’ve come to expect of a toddler that I don’t think I should still have to worry about with my teenage boys. While they’ve mastered taking out the trash, they still don’t seem to mind sleeping a bedroom so funky and piled with clothes that you’d need a map just to get from the door to the closet.

Someday all of my children will know the joy of keeping things clean and taking care of their possessions. Well, at least that’s my prayer. Until then, a man can dream. And in the meantime, I’ll keep rescuing my youngest son from any potential self-inflicted calamity.

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Death By Broken Heart

A few years ago in April, a close, dear friend of mine lost his youngest brother who was only 31 years old.  This came after losing their mother to a long battle with cancer on New Year’s Eve the year prior.

The unofficial cause of his death: A Broken Heart

See, he was very close to his mom. He and his older sister lived together, and their mom came to stay with them during her final days. They both would help take care of her. Whatever she needed, they would provide. Loving and attentive to the very end. Before she passed, he would sleep on the floor next to her bed. So it’s no surprise that he took her death very hard. At one point he admitted to being nearly unable to function at all.

One night when his sister returned home from visiting their older brother, she found him slumped over the steering wheel of his car with the engine still running. What’s remarkable is that he’d spoken to someone on the phone just 10 minutes prior. In the short period of time between that phone call and his sister arriving home, they are guessing he must have had a heart attack. It caused me to marvel to what degree grief can diminish a person’s will to live. Even unto death. I don’t know… but I do know that there is no proven remedy for the loss of a loved one. No medication or certain type of clothes to wear. No drink or remote destination. There is only time, comfort and the healing support of those who love you.

This made me contemplate my own mortality and the things I hold dear. It’s why I’ve made it a point to study the contours of my wife’s smiling face and commit them all to memory. Because these are the treasures that remain.

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