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The Priceless Population

As a society it seems as if we value just about everything as it ages. Things like…

Wine(Paul Masson “We will sell no wine before its time“) There seems to be a general belief that when it comes to wine, older is definitely better. People have paid out extraordinary amounts of money to own rare and highly sought after spirits.

And houses: Although most houses fall into the “decrepit” category after 100 years (or less in some cases), there are still many houses (even older) that are considered “vintage” and sell for a premium, especially American Craftsman Style homes if they have all or most of their original “built ins” or have been designated historical landmarks.

And of course, baseball cards: One of the most expensive baseball card in the world is one from 1909 that was sold for a staggering $2.8 million!

Now, while I certainly think all of these aged-collectables are nice, the most notable and surprising exception to inclusion in this time-established ranking of seniority… is people.

It’s really sad to me that as people get older, instead of treating them with respect and dignity, many of them are treated like a nuisance. An inconvenience at best. We cast our elderly aside like yesterday’s newspaper. Maybe good for recycling, but more likely to be used as lining in bird cages. Where is the honor many of the aged among us so rightfully deserve? When did we become so careless with our ancestry?

I’ve purposed to simply record conversation with my older relatives, especially my parents. I sit and ask questions about a bygone era that shaped the people they eventually became. People who fell in love, got married and gave me life. I realized a long time ago that there is so much to be learned from their lifetime of experiences. I learn about our country’s history from a first-hand accounting of events. I learn about the transformation of what constituted entertainment. And I learn about our community both large and small, as well as its victories and its defeats.

So just remember, by the grace of God, we’ll all get old eventually. Make the time to give your elders the time and attention they deserve. Because the hearts of this extraordinary population, and the wisdom-laden information they provide are in a word… priceless.

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12 Signs You’re A Dad

COUNTDOWN: 5 days until Father’s Day…

  1. You know you’re a dad if: Coming home from work actually means being greeted at the door by a wife handing you the baby, and realizing you’ve just started the childcare swing shift.
  2. You know you’re a dad if: You realize sleep deprivation is the #1 buzz kill for sex.
  3. You know you’re a dad if: “Emergency Money” in your wallet is now spent on fast food runs when mom is away.
  4. You know you’re a dad if: You know more about the daily lives of Elmo and Dora the Explorer than Vice President Joe Biden.
  5. You know you’re a dad if: You have perfected the “football hold” and it has absolutely NOTHING to do with sports.
  6. You know you’re a dad if: Your daily exercise consists of 2-Child Power Lifts on a bean bag.
  7. You know you’re a dad if: Your desk at work is devoid of IN/OUT trays, but instead is lined with toys for when your kids come to visit.
  8. You know you’re a dad if: You pray for bedtime.
  9. You know you’re a dad if: You are the unofficial Weekend Activity Coordinator.
  10. You know you’re a dad if: Your kids beg you for a raspberry and they don’t mean fruit.
  11. You know you’re a dad if: Your old clothes are now being used as a Middle School fashion coordinate.
  12. You know you’re a dad if: Prime Time is now replaced with Book Time.
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DOVE NOTE #18: Rational Security

(from the forthcoming book “Dove Notes”)
“A woman needs security like a man needs approval.”

I’ve heard this statement on several occasions. When it comes to getting things done, I’ve noticed that women are more likely to plan and men are more likely to procrastinate. Yes, I’m sure there are many men and women who are exceptions to this rule. But for the most part it’s pretty evenly divided by gender. Contentions arise when a woman’s inclination to plan collides with a man’s tendency to procrastinate. This can potentially spark an argument that will last for days.  Is there a way around this?? Of course!  But it requires a willingness to change your default behavior.

See, the key to avoiding this type of confrontation is for men to understand the underlying motivation for a woman’s actions. IMPORTANT: A woman feels most secure when she is confident in a man’s ability to handle responsibility. It makes her feel secure because she doesn’t have to worry about whether or not critical (or even non-critical) things will get done. Waiting for a man to handle business can cause her tremendous stress and raise her anxiety level to DefCon 4. You will both benefit from shifting your priorities to ensure the alleviation of her anxiety. Believe me… it works.  Following is an illustration of the concept.

The scenario plays out like this (based on a true story)… there’s a bill due 4 days from now and money needs to be deposited in the bank to cover the payment.

Day 1

(It’s 7:00am. She walks into the living room holding a few checks in her hand. She stops him just as he’s getting ready to head out the door for work.)

Her:Honey, can you deposit these checks in the bank so that I can pay the bill?” *She hands him the checks with a cute smile. Knowing full well the effect it has on his motivation.*

Him: “Sure babe. I’ll take care of that.” *He takes the checks and places them in his case, walking out the door.*

(Notice he didn’t give an indication of when he’d take care of it. But I assure you that in that moment, regardless of how non-committal his response may have been, she fully and completely understood him to mean he’d do it that day. Fast forward to 5:00pm. He walks through the door after getting home from work and sees his wife with that same smile from this morning and realizes what he did not do.)

Her: “Welcome home, honey. Did you deposit the checks today?”

Him: “Doh!  My day was so hectic I never even made it to the bank.”

Her:  “Well, I need those checks to go in or I can’t pay the bill that’s due in 3 days!” *Her face looks a bit panic-stricken. He’s seen that face before. It’s the dog-house face.*

Day 2

(Before he leaves for work, she provides a “gentle” reminder.)

Her: “Don’t forget to deposit the checks, honey.” *There’s a subtle but unmistakable hint of irritation in her voice.*

Him: (smiles) “See you when I get home babe.”

(he returns from work after a long day and as soon as he walks through the door, he hears…)

Her: “You didn’t deposit those checks, did you?’

Him: (with a raised brow)”Actually, I did.”

Her: (all googly eyed) “Awww… really??”

See, crises averted.  Had you not done this, her anxiety would quickly escalate to a critical level and propel you both into an ocean of harsh words and hurt feelings in which you would certainly drown. Granted, you could become all indignant about the fact that she assumed you didn’t take care of depositing the checks. But what would be beneficial about that? Truth is, a woman’s love is responsive. You will often receive over and above what you invest in her.

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