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The Priceless Population

As a society it seems as if we value just about everything as it ages. Things like…

Wine(Paul Masson “We will sell no wine before its time“) There seems to be a general belief that when it comes to wine, older is definitely better. People have paid out extraordinary amounts of money to own rare and highly sought after spirits.

And houses: Although most houses fall into the “decrepit” category after 100 years (or less in some cases), there are still many houses (even older) that are considered “vintage” and sell for a premium, especially American Craftsman Style homes if they have all or most of their original “built ins” or have been designated historical landmarks.

And of course, baseball cards: One of the most expensive baseball card in the world is one from 1909 that was sold for a staggering $2.8 million!

Now, while I certainly think all of these aged-collectables are nice, the most notable and surprising exception to inclusion in this time-established ranking of seniority… is people.

It’s really sad to me that as people get older, instead of treating them with respect and dignity, many of them are treated like a nuisance. An inconvenience at best. We cast our elderly aside like yesterday’s newspaper. Maybe good for recycling, but more likely to be used as lining in bird cages. Where is the honor many of the aged among us so rightfully deserve? When did we become so careless with our ancestry?

I’ve purposed to simply record conversation with my older relatives, especially my parents. I sit and ask questions about a bygone era that shaped the people they eventually became. People who fell in love, got married and gave me life. I realized a long time ago that there is so much to be learned from their lifetime of experiences. I learn about our country’s history from a first-hand accounting of events. I learn about the transformation of what constituted entertainment. And I learn about our community both large and small, as well as its victories and its defeats.

So just remember, by the grace of God, we’ll all get old eventually. Make the time to give your elders the time and attention they deserve. Because the hearts of this extraordinary population, and the wisdom-laden information they provide are in a word… priceless.

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Random Dove Thought: Word is Bond

There was a time when a person’s word was highly valued. When you made a promise, there was a reasonable expectation that it would be kept, even if it meant your own hurt. Your word was inextricably linked to your honor. But we live in a time now where people have become, more often than not, skeptical of the intentions and motivations of others.

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Dove Note #13: Protect and Defend

(from the forthcoming book “Dove Notes”)

During the Stone Age, men were often responsible for protecting and defending their families from various dangers, such as wild animals, severe weather and even other people. Most men would sacrifice their lives before letting anything happen to their loved ones. But in today’s society where lions are only seen in zoo cages and severe weather is avoided by simply closing your living room window, some men have forgotten what it means to protect and defend.

Now, I’m not talking about shooting a burglar who tries to climb through your kitchen window, and I’m not referring to intimidating the 8th graders who are bullying your kid at school. Those kinds of things are obvious. What I AM talking about is the type of protection and defense that clearly tells a woman what kind of person you are deep down inside.

Aside from those obvious examples, most women are still looking for real signs that a man will in fact protect and defend them in ways that aren’t necessarily tangible. For example, if you are in a group setting and someone makes an open and degrading joke about her, she needs to know that you won’t laugh along with them, but rather state in no uncertain terms, no matter who it is, that it is NEVER okay to insult or criticize her. You have demonstrated to her that you will defend her honor.

Also, some men feel comfortable joking about a woman’s hair, weight or something she did that may have seemed foolish. But regardless of how harmless you think your comment was, she needs to know that you will never try to get a laugh at her expense. This makes her feel vulnerable and unsafe with the one person whom she trusts will always cover her. She should always feel your unyielding support and encouragement. Or else, your behavior will cause her to withdraw, and will ultimately undermine the very foundation of your relationship.

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