I used to wonder why people run to the scene of a car accident, or why many Google trends have to do with the latest celebrity photo scandal. But then I realized that it has more to do with the fact that we are drawn to situations that are outside of those to which we are accustomed. Car accidents happen, but they don’t happen to most people everyday. There’s a good portion of the population that are foolish, but 99% of us are not Celebutards who like taking naked pictures for our boyfriend-of-the-week only to feign disgust when he sells them to TMZ.
What’s my point? My point is that what should be a simple 1 + 1 = 2 thought process is not computing for the masses. If our collective attention really is drawn to what is uncommon, atypical or rare (1), and people have long since mourned the demise of healthy marriages (+ 1), then why are some people uninterested (or so quick to dismiss) the discussion or promotion of successful relationship? (= 2). We still focus on the relational train wrecks, the adulterous politicians, the bed-hopping socialites and staged “reality” drama in the form of The Bachelor(ette)’s bevy of eligible (and some mentally disturbed) men and women. Maybe it’s just a form of entertainment for people? A necessary distraction?
I believe that exposure to positive relationships is being completely overshadowed by recurring themes of hurt, fear, hopelessness, betrayal and despair. I do realize that we’ve all had bad experiences. But those bad experiences don’t define us and they don’t determine our future success or failure. Maybe it has to do with the old adage that misery loves company? Or perhaps people have such low expectations that they buy in to the belief that relationships are destined to fail? I don’t know. What I DO know is that these distractions are completely ineffective cures for society’s ailments. Ignoring an injury doesn’t make the pain go away. And you will never heal an old wound by creating a new one.
I’ve gotten private messages on occasion accusing me of making up the stories about my wife and kids. I’m like, really?? Even with all the pictures, videos and other people who corroborate my story?? It blows me away. Honestly, I wouldn’t have the attention span to dedicate the necessary time to such an elaborate hoax. I barely manage to balance time to write here, work and invest in my family. A full time gig for sure. 😛
Anyway, it’s no secret that I’m a huge proponent of the promotion of healthy relationships and will always encourage posts on this topic. I don’t think we can have enough of them. I can’t speak for anyone else, but I’m all about being real. REAL stories about REAL people experiencing REAL success. This is how you join the rebellion. 🙂