DOVE NOTE #90 – Soda Explosion


We all know (or should know) that any relationship worth having will have some issues to iron out. The following is one such issue…

Two friends of mine are making plans to get married (somewhere in the distant future, and yes, to each other). The guy is having difficulty understanding why his fiance wasn’t okay with him hanging out with an old female friend. He says she’s only a friend. Although, when pressed, he admits that this girl likes him. And though he says he doesn’t like her, it still doesn’t foster a sense of security with his fiance.

I told him that this girl is probably hoping not-so-secretly that if things don’t go well with his current girlfriend, she’ll be there to “mend his heart” and finally get her chance to date him. He found the thought of that to be somewhat ridiculous. Mostly because he doesn’t find her remotely attractive.

So I offered him a word of advice. I said, “Willfully contributing to your partner’s insecurity is like shaking a bottle of soda. Once you open it up, it’ll explode all over you and everyone close to you.” I told him to show his fiance how much he values her by demonstrating his preference for her feelings over all others. Blessed is the husband whose life consists of joyful memories upon which he and his wife can build a happy future.

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One thought on “DOVE NOTE #90 – Soda Explosion

  1. dreamsescapeme

    Thankfully, Joe doesn’t have many female friends, and the ones he does have are friends of mine as well, so this hasn’t really been a problem for us, but I understand why the gf is a little upset. My ex was very close friends with a girl who made it her life’s mission to break us apart, and he would get angry and defensive when I told him she made me supremely uncomfortable. If she hadn’t said to me in no uncertain words that she was going to do everything in her power to “steal” him from me, I wouldn’t have had a problem, but she did, and he should have respected my feelings in the matter. It was one of many reasons why we broke up.

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