Today I recalled a discussion with my wife a while ago where we talked about healing… more specifically, Emotional Healing.
This is a topic I believe many people often misunderstand. Unlike other types of wounds, emotional wounds typically extend deep, manifesting with both physical and emotional scarring, and requiring an extended recovery period. The length of time it takes to heal emotional wounds can depend on different variables including:
- The type of wound… whether it be betrayal, abuse, a bad reputation, public ridicule or even neglect.
- The person inflicted… some people have a higher threshold for pain and can therefore endure far more than others. So what may be emotionally fatal to one person, might be seen as simply an emotional abrasion to someone else.
- The person who caused the injury… in some cases it can be far more damaging to be wounded by a family member than a friend.
Either way, these wounds require delicate handling so that they are not re-opened accidentally. We might get to a point where the pain has ceased, but we must realize there is still damage beneath the scar. The funny thing about emotional healing is that when the pain is gone, some of us rush right back into the exact types of situations that caused the wound in the first place. Not only does it set us up for repeat injury, but the wound then becomes compounded… causing far more damage and pain than before… and nearly doubling the recovery time.
After my divorce, the best thing that could have happened (and did) was to have people around me who would be firm and let me know that although the pain has eased up, I still had some healing to do. It may take some time before I was at full emotional health. Even though the desire to jump right back into matters of the heart can be compelling. It can cause you to make bad judgments, and like any wound left untreated it will become infected and cause damage to other vital parts of your life. I thank God for my family and friends (virtual included) who had my best interest at heart. For that, I love you all.
But I must say that I am most thankful for my best friend, who also happens to be my wife. It is through her friendship and love that many of my deepest emotional wounds, especially those I initially kept hidden or refused to even acknowledge, were healed once and for all. ❤